January 1, 2010

Resolutions for 2010

Okay! Time to improve ourselves for the sole reason that it was time to buy a new calendar!

Let's pause and notice that I spelled calendar correctly without the spell-checker correcting me. It seems like it would be a 50-50 thing, but it's not just that I can't remember how to spell it, it's that I remember how to spell it WRONG.

Here are my resolutions:

1. I am going to use my reusable bags more often. I am already doing pretty well at this, in that Paul does the grocery shopping and he always remembers to use them, so I am using them by proxy. And I just bought (him) a set of 5 reusable produce bags after I saw them on StyleLush. Also, I carry a single reusable bag in my purse, and sometimes I remember to use it, and the number of "sometimes" has been increasing. I'd like to continue to increase.

2. I liked Miss Grace's friend Molly's idea about resolving to pass along good things we hear. As Miss Grace puts it: "The logic is that you ALWAYS hear about it when someone says something nasty about you, so why not make a special effort to make sure people hear about it when someone says something nice about them." So, for example, if someone mentions in an email how awesome they think Jonniker is, I would not just say, "Oh, dude, seriously, I KNOW!," I would also tell Jonniker about it, even if privacy prevented me from telling her who said it. My resolution is to think about this idea and its implications, and maybe try it out.

3. I'm going to try to think longer before buying something. I enjoy bargain shopping, and although this results in happy things like $2 shirts to clothe my many, many children, it sometimes results in twice as many $2 shirts as we need. It's not like this is tearing our finances apart, but it does seem like it might be nice to leave some $2 shirts for other people to find. I'm going to try to AT LEAST think it over before buying it, rather than thinking that "excellent price" plus "we have a use for it" equals "duh, buy it."

4. I'm going to drink champagne more often. That stuff is delicious.

5. I will at least OPEN my Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Dummies to the page where I left off. I don't know why I stopped reading it when I was finding it so useful ("I can PREFER that X is the case, but I can't DEMAND it"), but I can't seem to get back to it and it's been MONTHS.

6. I'm going to memorize and think about a quote I just read at Kate's place: "Don't be afraid of failing; be afraid of succeeding at the wrong thing." There are things I sometimes feel pressured to succeed at, but this reminds me that success in and of itself is nothing to strive for or be praised for: it has to be something that was GOOD TO DO.

7. I'm going to throw out the lotion I don't like and replace it with the kind I do like. We are talking about one of those huge bottles that cost $5, so the investment is not worth holding onto year after year.

8. I am going to copy The New Girl's decision to avoid avoidable jackassery.

What did you resolve? I might steal one of yours and add it to my list.


Anonymous said...

Can't believe I'm the first to comment! I want to make it a habit to turn off the computer in the early evening so I can read books.
Happy New Year to you and your family, Swistle!!

Lawyerish said...

I love #2, and I am going to steal that one!

Along those lines, I have decided that I should compliment people more. Not in an insincere way, but when I think something nice about someone, I should SAY it to them, which I am not in the habit of doing enough.

Lisa said...

Wow! I'm impressed by #5 even being on your list -- even a Dummies version of that topic seems way too scholarly for me at this point! Kudos to you for the resolution.

I'm not big on resolutions for myself ... I try to improve myself on a regular basis ... and, in turn, fail regularly! But I think I hereby resolve to drink more water. My brain is getting dry and shriveled up and needs refreshment so I can think more creatively.

Happy New Year to you!

d e v a n said...

ooh, I like #1, I always forget to use mine.

js0512 said...

I resolve to spend more time with my daughter. Scratch that, more QUALITY time with her. Saying "Yes" more to her. I'm shocked she still asks questions, considering how often she's met with "No", "Not now", "There's no time", or "Maybe later, we'll see". It's not going to kill me to play Wii Fit with her for an hour instead of doing the laundry I can so easily do when she's asleep. I missed a lot of her first few years due to heavy depression, and I refuse to allow my mental state to miss any more.

Jess said...

Number 4 makes me laugh. I like that one.

I have several resolutions, which I need to formulate into a coherent post. One of them is definitely more deliberate meal planning and grocery shopping. We waste so much time and money due to "It's 6 o'clock, what's for dinner?" syndrome.

Raven said...

Oh, #1 makes me sooo happy! I'm glad that you liked something I posted about enough to buy it!

Stimey said...

Oooh, those are good resolutions. I think I might go get some of those produce bags myself.

My resolution is to exercise more. And drink more water. But drinking more champagne is a worthy cause too.

Hairline Fracture said...

I am totally going to do #2. It goes along with my more general goal of remembering to be kind to others instead of obsessing about my own issues. And although I would never remember to bring reusable grocery bags into the store, I am going to take the mountain of plastic bags back to be recycled. Then I will have achieved success on one resolution by this weekend!

Nicole said...

I'm going to bake bread. That is my resolution. I'm trying right now but my house is so cold that it's not rising. DAMMIT.

Sarah said...

I just want to be a better grocery shopper. If that's the only thing I succeed at, I'll be happy. I want to meal plan before I shop, I want to NEVER SHOP HUNGRY, which I always seem to end up doing, and I want to stop buying either too much or not enough produce. Surely there is a way to find a happy middle ground between running out of bananas and having bananas rotting away in the fruit bowl?

Girlie said...

My goals for this year are to not buy things at the grocery store that I'm not going to end up eating just because it is a good deal, and to walk a 5k for charity.

Allison said...

I'm not going to let what other people do or say bother me so much this year.

running2me said...

You have the BEST resolutions! Fun, important and D0-able!
Mine are the freakin' marathon, trying pilates/yoga and eating better. Nothing too interesting, it seems. I should try harder to think of better resolutions! Hey! Now THAT'S a resolution I can get behind.

running2me said...

Oh, and if you like champagne....try PROSECCO! Like champagne but, in my opinion, BETTER!

Miss Grace said...

Happy New Year Swistle!!

Lippy said...

I just posted about this, my big one is to learn to ride a bike. (SCARY)

I like the idea of passing along compliments. I should try that.

fairydogmother said...

Ooh, I like your resolutions. Numbers six and seven especially! Last year one of my goals for the year was to use my reusable bags more often, and now we use them all the time. What ended up making the difference was keeping them on the doorknob of the front door -- I ended up using them far more often than when I kept them in the trunk of my car. Out of sight, out of mind I guess.

My resolutions for this year (so far) are to get a job that does not make me completely miserable, and to have more fun. Not necessarily in that order!

Sarah said...

I like #3 a lot. I got to the point after my third child was born when I'd get to the store and think, "$2! That's amazing! I'll buy three!" but then realize that I didn't need to spend $6 on more LAUNDRY. Also, my kids tend to wear the same 5 shirts over and over anyway and there are things that just go unworn. What a waste, even if I do pass it along to someone who does use it.

I also remind myself when I get to the store (usually Target, the foul temptress!) that I was living a perfectly fine, happy life before I saw the sheets at 50% off.

After cutting back on my impulse purchases, I find that there is more money to go around in general and that when the time comes to buy sheets, I can buy what I actually NEED without worrying about finding a sale (though, let's face it, sales aren't too hard to come by).

Keep us posted! Also, how as Project Declutter been going these days? I found those posts to be so inspiring!

Swistle said...

Sarah- Project Declutter seems to have faded out of existence as soon as the urgency of working on it was gone. However, I do find I retain useful residual decluttering techniques, such as using things up, and also just PUTTING SOMETHING IN THE TRASH if I've been looking at it for 6 months and not doing anything about it.

Sarah said...

Swistle -- I took Mo Mommy's challenge to pick a word. I'm going to be more present this year and try to appreciate what I have in the moment. I really like your resolution of passing along compliments. It's a Pay It Forward kind of idea. :)

jonniker said...

So! I think YOU are awesome and many people told ME that you are awesome, too! Oh wait ... that example was hypothetical, wasn't it? But really, many people think you are awesome and love you, and I need to make that clear. Including me. I love you. So there is that.

Secondly! This year, instead of making resolutions, I am going to make a list of TANGIBLE GOALS, and some of them are going to be very tiny and easy to do, but I figure it is better to make them EASY than make them too hard and leave me feeling like a failure before Februrary even sets in. The sad part is that I have yet to really do this, although I have many ideas. I will let you know when I make it up. :-)

Disclaimer: I stole this from Jennie at She Likes Purple, who is also great, and I think it's an awesome idea. I like it better than the life list, even.

Kate House said...

I'm going to try to act more my age than my elderly relatives' age.

Let me just applaud you on and then steal your lotion resolution. I am going upstairs right now to trash every bottle of cucumber-melon lotion I've been saving out of guilt for years. I hate melon.

Barb @ getupandplay said...

I like Lawerish's idea of complimenting people more. I did it recently at the grocery store and it made me feel good AND made the person I complimented feel good, why not do it more often?

My main (and pretty much only) resolution for 2010 is to graduate from college. I have been slooooowly working on my degree for NINE years and this August I will be done. I am recommitting to it every day, despite the difficulty of juggling child care, turning down cool job offers, having less free time, etc. because it is important to finish!

I have also promised to continue working on getting fit so I can feel strong and healthy. I feel like I have been blessed with health so far in my life and I don't want to take it for granted (which I kind of feel like I do now). I have done some big things in 2009 towards this goal and will continue working on it in 2010.

And I want to cook more.

But mostly the school thing. :)

Karen L said...

I haven't put it all together but some contenders are:
-computer off by 10 pm 5 days per week.
-meal planning
-cleaning inside, around and under the kitchen appliances more often.

Groovymarlin said...

I have been thinking more about resolutions, and I've come up with some more concrete ones than "make myself happy." Which is really a cop-out, if you think about it (please don't). So these are the things I resolve to do MORE in 2010:

- Read (finish all the hard copy books in my office, so I'm Kindle-only by the end of the year).
- Exercise (think it will help my energy level, I've noticed that I seem to be sleeping more and more lately, and I don't have any strange bite marks on my neck, so...).
- Meditate (as a pathway to serenity and helping me accomplish some of the others).

Things I want to do less in 2010:

- Care about insignificant crap (really, just get over it girl).
- Hate (see above).
- Procrastinate (may take me a while to get to this one - ha ha! see what I did?).

Happy New Year.

Deanna said...

Great list, Swistle! I love #3, as I'm trying VERY hard not to let myself fall into the habit of buying what I don't need just because it's the BEST DEAL EVER.

A couple from my list: have more patience (with everyone, pretty much) and read more books (versus tv or computer when I have spare time).

Happy 2010!

Bunnyslippers said...

I will be repeating the only resolution that I have ever actually stuck to (even did it for two years). I will try one new recipe a week . The last time I made this resolution, my diet improved dramatically (new foods seem to override the junk food cravings) and I found some new favourites. I will also actively declutter.

Joanne said...

I am going to try to sit on my kitchen floor crying less often. Maybe never! I'd like to finish this damned Couch to 5K, be better at planning meals and grocery shopping, to complain less, to appreciate what I have more, to be kinder and sweeter to my children and husband. And myself.

SIL Anna said...

I don't want to take better care of my teeth, but I plan to try. I don't know why I hate it so much.

I like your champagne resolution. Maybe I'll add that one on, to kind of balance out the whole teeth thing.

Leigh said...

I am going to meditate at least three days a week for at least a few minutes.

It's my hope that other intentions will flow from that!

Ms. Molly said...

Such good resolutions, I like #1 and although I'm pretty good at remembering my bags I have way too many plastic bags in my house. Now I must think about my resolutions!

Kim said...

Becoming more of an expert on adoption procedures than I became last year at fertility procedures.

Kristi said...

I resolve to eat more cookies. So far so good.

Firegirl said...

the more I think about it, the more I love & will work on avoiding jackassery. I think that is a great resolution for me. (:-D Of course, I may have to kick a few family members to curb & perhaps quit my job but oh well. It's a resolution. hahahahha.

Anonymous said...

Quick because the children they are a yelling!

I bought this calendar and can't wait to start putting stuff in. http://www.lang.com/product/1001304

I really hope I am remembering right and it was you who had the calendar post or you will think that was a rather odd thing to tell you about.

Have not done my resolutions yet but I am going to assign myself 12 of them, one to work on each month. For example, January is going to be: Plan a weekly menu and shop for it so that I am not standing around at 5:30 pondering making macaroni and cheese from a box, again.

Happy New Year, Swistle!

Megan (don't mean to be anonymous but can't figure out what the other choices want from me. The Yelling! It continues despite my ignoring it!Gah!

Tracey - Just Another Mommy Blog said...

Avoid TOTAL jackassery?!? TOTAL? MAn. You have lofty goals, my dear. I will aim for "minimal" myself...

Whitney said...

I'm loving #4!

And, to Barb@getupand play...it took me 12 years to get my undergraduate degree. 12 YEARS! So, I'm living proof that it can be done, even though it seems to take FOREVER. Stick to it!

I'm going to try and be more patient. With my husband, with my kids, and with myself.

That's my resolution and I'm going to try my best at it.

Pray for me.

Astarte said...

These all seem very interesting and pertinent and doable. I have a hell of a time thinking of specific, applicable resoloutions that I know I can also DO. Will have to think on this.

Tess said...

Oh, I love these! These resolution posts bring me so much HOPE and JOY! Yay.

I have some resolutions in mind, but I'm trying to flesh out two for each of my physical/mental/spiritual categories.

Also, I LOVE the one about success. Yes. That is genius.

Secret Mom Thoughts said...

Love these. I am definitely going to try to pass the bargain up sometimes. It is hard to do though.

plk said...

I keep thinking I should resolve not to read while I eat, because that should help me not eat to much/eat to escape, but it just seems so boring.

I have resolved to try to cook at least one new recipe a week from one of the many great cookbooks we have. And so far I've made 4 this year, woo hoo! (well, if you start counting 12/26/09 - had more free time over the holidays since we didn't go anywhere).

Alice said...

oooh i saw those produce bags too and covet them. i'm good at being environmentally aware when it's so CUTE to do so!

another good thing said...

OOH all good. i am also going to try to ask more of my readers, so that i might actually have a comment or 2 in 2010? HAH! with hundreds of hits on a post, you'd think at least 1 would have something to say. Maybe I need to piss more people off?? Seriously. love these resolutions- especially the think before deal buying- that's me!

Tony said...

Do women actually have to BUY lotion? Don't you get like 15 bottles each year at Christmas.

I think my wife still has some lotion in the medicine cabinet left over from the Clinton administration.

Steph the WonderWorrier said...

Hurrah for awesome resolutions! I wrote up my 2010 post today myself. I went with "Things I'll Probably Do Anyway" so that when I forget I wrote the post, I can still be proud of what I accomplished (much like what I did this year, I'm thinking ahead! LOL).

Happy New Year, Swistle m'dear! You rock my socks off, woman!